This is an excerpt from Tama’s book, Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! (Tarcher/Penguin). Inspired & Unstoppable is all about how to use inspired means to achieve any of your dreams:

The world is not holding you back. You are holding the world back. You are holding back your strength and your strength can make a difference at this time. You have a power in you that can move mountains, and, better yet, people. But you’re still allowing others to tell you what’s possible or right.

Maybe you’re still chasing kudos to glue some sequined wings onto your hobbled back. But no amount of approval will ever set loose the inspired potential that you already possess. You have the power to shed your ordinary skin. You have the power to turn flesh into hope, disconnection into union, and this moment into a balm to some section of humanity. You are holding back the floodgates of your own wild ride.

Wild success is not about what the world can give to you, but what you can give to the world.

It isn’t about the desperate rat race to secure things that vanish overnight. It’s a feeling of ease and authority. It’s knowing you have something to give and that as you give it, you are given everything you could ever need. For me, this was entering the big time.

A Course in Miracles talks about grandeur versus grandiosity. Grandiosity is of the ego, the striving part of us that wants to feel better about ourselves by having big things happen, winning popularity contests, money, fame, and a few parking passes in the rock star arena of life. Grandeur is simply the largesse of spirit we show up in. We may also still attract money, fame, crowds, and opportunities. But the circumstances don’t validate or redeem us. The agents, talk shows, investors and the like show up to accommodate the strength and light that we already possess, the wild kind, the kind that can never be taken away.

For years, I waited for the world to give me permission to shine.

I wanted the world to carve out a path for me, reserve a beach cabana in my name, or roll out the red carpet. I didn’t realize I was the magic carpet. I was the burning bush. I was someone who could make a difference in someone else’s life. Finally, I began to practice showing up the way I would if a million people were validating my greatness and begging for my expression. I stopped bargaining with the world for approval, cash, compensations and invitations. I started allowing myself to feel the delicious authority of giving what I had to give. And here’s the marvel I discovered: Unconditional love is unconditional power. When I started standing in my love, I didn’t need the world to see my power. I saw it. I knew it. Everything else was just inevitable.

For so long, I wanted to write and speak and offer my creativity to mankind, if they’d have me. I often said, “I want to live in a world that champions visionaries and creative and alternative abilities.” I’d repeat it like a drunk at the bar, summoning grandness while laying my head down on the sticky counter and closing my eyes. I wanted that world to just appear. I assumed other people would invade the mainstream, stake a flag, and paint all the doors purple. But finally I realized that maybe our culture didn’t need my idle wishes. Maybe it needed my contribution. Maybe it needed my sensitivities, —and my sweat.

But many of us feel as though we’re just stumbling through the fog, trying to find the front door to our own life, and that we don’t have anything to offer humanity.

We may feel like your average garden snake, or, sometimes, your average garden snake that needs just a bit more therapy than your average garden snake. Yet standing in our power isn’t about how wonderful we are, as much as it’s about how willing we are. We are willing to play for Team Light. We are willing to give what we have. We are willing to let our own sad opinions of ourselves grumble in the background, but not stop us from standing in the foreground or standing on the new ground of sharing our true selves.

Years ago, I gave a talk to a crowded room. Up until then, I’d always spoken from a riser, a small platform, not a stage. This room was crowded and did have a stage, an unusually tall one. It was a freaking Himalayan mountain, if you ask me. There’s no way I’m getting up there, I thought to myself. A friend rushed over and said, “You have to get on that stage.”

But I wanted to speak at the same level as the audience, just be one of the gang. “But they won’t be able to see you,” implored my friend. “No, the riser will be fine,” I said, like a thin-skinned, blue haired grandma from Mayberry, not one to unbutton her cardigan, much less stand on top of a mountain and implore people to live their soul’s destiny. It was a tepid, unremarkable experience for the audience. For me, it was a turning point in my career. It was obvious to me that the Universe was teaching me that playing small wouldn’t work anymore. I couldn’t shine the light and hide myself at the same time. I had to make a choice. I had to step up onto the stage of my life.

You will have to make a choice, too. You will have to decide to play big, shine in your own way, and take a stand for your talent, message or service. As a speaker I’ve learned that if you’re not willing to rock the boat, you’ll never rock the house. Inspiration asks you to be a servant and sometimes you serve by leading. Can you imagine if Martin Luther King didn’t want to be a “loud mouth” or a “big shot?” Or what if Jesus mumbled? There comes a time when you will have to stand up for the magnificent truth that trembles in your heart and bones. When you step out in this way, you are actually letting go of your ego, not letting it decide for you. You will stand out– and disappear into your gift at the same time.

I remember churning with the fear of alienating myself by owning my own strength and power. This had been a lifelong anxiety. Back in school, I sometimes lied about good, okay, killer grades to make others feel better. I “played small” because I desperately wanted to be liked. Doing a session with a business success coach, I told him “I’m afraid I’ll lose people if I stand in my strength.” He didn’t miss a beat. “You will,” he said, “You will lose weak people, spiteful people, people who want to keep you down,” he said, “But you will attract other people, people who want to play with other people in their power. You will attract the people who love the light.” He sold me and I hope I’m selling you.

You are the steward of an unimaginable resource. Discover who you really are, by shining unconditionally. The world can’t give you this power. The current culture often doesn’t invite genius, because it doesn’t know– what it doesn’t know. Dare to experience your own grandeur, the feeling of giving everything you have and receiving everything you are, all in the same breath. As you do this, the quality, energy and form of your expression has to expand. It’s inevitable. Big love attracts big love.

Copyright © Tama Kieves  All rights reserved.

Tama J. Kieves is the bestselling author of THIS TIME I DANCE! Creating the Work You Love (How One Harvard Lawyer Left It All to Have It All!) and is a sought-after speaker and career coach who has helped thousands world-wide to discover and live their true work in the world. Visit her at www.ThisTimeIDance and sign up for free inspiration and support through her monthly e-newsletter or download her Free Transformational Report on “Finding Your Calling Now.”
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